The Two Meanings of a Breakup

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5 hours ago
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Breakups can have two distinctly different meanings. They can be exactly what they are, and the opposite of what they appear to be. A breakup can mean, ” I’m done here. It’s really over.” Or, it can be a plea for proof of your love. This type of breakup is really saying, “I love you. [...]

The Power of Appreciation

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1 week ago
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I recently attended a lecture by Dr. Jeffrey Zeig, Ph.D. Psychologist, author, lecturer and founder of the Milton Erickson Foundation, this world-renowned relationship expert stressed the profound power of appreciation when applied to the arena of love and partnership. The act of appreciation dramatically amplifies the love, that does exist. A love that has been [...]

The Irrational Fear of Being Alone

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1 month ago
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The fear of being alone is terrifying for most people I know. This paralyzing projection keeps many a couple trapped in a dysfunctional loop of unhappy relations. Though the reasons stated for not separating include children and/or loss of money, at the core of this stasis is a fear of being alone. Someone, it seems, [...]

Reader Reignites Her Man’s Mojo

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1 month ago
by Susan Winter in
Here’s and update on Kara’s situation with Mark. She changed her inner dialogue and changed her outer behavior. I’m thrilled when readers reignite their love, and come around to a better place. Below is her letter. Thanks Kara— for your letter and for the effort you applied to switch the dynamics in your relationship. Things [...]

Her Man Lost His Mojo

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1 month ago
by Susan Winter in
What do you do when your man loses his Mojo? In todays tough economic climate, this letter affects many women in relationships. If your mate is experiencing a financial downturn you will be sharing his discontent. Here’s how to help your man find his Mojo again, and how to unburden yourself in the process. Included [...]

Send Me Your Questions

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2 months ago
by Susan Winter in
Each week, I will select one pertinent question from my readers to answer directly on this site. There are many common threads that unite the questions I receive. Knowing your concerns may help others as well, I’m beginning this weekly dialogue. In order to best serve your needs regarding privacy, please construct a letter that I [...]

I will be on TV Monday November 21, 2011: DATING HELP 911!

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2 months ago
by Susan Winter in
I’m on TV this Monday, at 6pm, EST. The NYC based show Dating Help 911! is hosted by my colleague Tracey Steinberg, Dateologist.® Tracey hosts the only interactive dating advice television show in the world. This show is live. Call us at 212.757.2076 with your most pressing dating and relationship questions. We’ll answer you directly [...]

The Ultimate Seduction

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2 months ago
by Susan Winter in
The ultimate form of seduction may be different than what you imagine. Unlike the long-held ideology that allure is created by push/pull tactics, games and distancing— the key to all attraction, is warmth. When you think of the most charming and engaging people you’ve ever met, they were undoubtably warm. Warmth is the quality that [...]

Parting Ways; The Natural Cycle of Life

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2 months ago
by Susan Winter in
Lovers and friends come in and out of our lives. This is a natural occurrence. Yet, upon this revelation we often feel baldly. “Why did this happen? How could they let me down? I thought we shared a love, a connection, and that we were closer.” Emotions of loss, betrayal, invalidation and sadness are common [...]

Is There a “Cure” for Jealousy?

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3 months ago
by Susan Winter in
Yes. The issue of jealousy requires inner work, as it’s a mental construct in need of adjustment. Imposing outer changes in the hopes of affecting an inner reality shift is pointless. Outer changes are never a cure. They’re a form of temporary band-aid that may shield a bruised ego but won’t eradicate the root cause [...]

  • About Susan Winter

    As seen on OPRAH, author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Older Women, Younger Men, New Horizon Press, 2000) offers advice on today's evolving forms of loving partnership. From age-varied couplings to traditional relationship challenges, assistance is provided from a higher perspective.

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