A Lid for Every Kettle

by Laura Banks

“There will always be a special person out there who fits your peculiarities just as you fit theirs, exactly as you are. You just need to figure out your peculiarities.” That quote was taken from an article on submission on the Web. Fast frame: Runaway Bride. The Julia Roberts character wants to figure out what she wants and who she is. She doesn’t know yet so she keeps running from commitments. I can relate. I have been running in some ways for a long time. I too, have never married. I’ve enjoyed an eight and eleven year partnership with two different men and when you add that up, that’s a pretty good marriage. But as a grown up (whom on occasion wears pigtails) I realized my running has more to do with having not articulated my needs with a partner, so committing made no sense. It’s the same in business. You need to know your niche before you can get rich. Now I know my niche market for myself – what will and won’t work for me, in the bedroom and out. It’s taken much self examination and the bitter pill of defeat on occasion to get this far. Now someone either will or won’t want to get on my train. It’s like going to buy a dress: knowing your choices in size, color, fabric, quality and style narrows the rack. Now I know I need a man who is open-minded and progressive in his thinking in sensual and sexual exploration, yet traditional in partnership. Oh, and he can’t have a comb-over or prefer the New York Giants every night vs. spanking the pony. Add to the recipe, he needs to really like me a lot. He needs to get who I am to my core and say, “All of it is good and my love is unconditional. Even the parts that suck.” Of course, that requires a proper dose of sanity and regular usage of Webster’s book.

The journey continues.