Spin Cycle

There is a dating phenomenon I call the Spin Cycle. It’s where a potential sexual partner stirs us up to a frenzy through the onslaught of excessive attention. This exhilarating effect tosses our head in the clouds one minute, then lands on thoughts of the seducer/seductress the next minute. A magnificent light cascades around us, as the activator of this passion shines their fully focused attention our way. It is a wildly stimulating experience.

The degree to which one can be spun, is directly related to the degree that individual is grounded. If we’re off balance, weakened by a lesser than normal sense of self, we are more easily captivated by the spin. If we are firmly functioning from a solid sense of self, the spin is registered as the intense energy of excitement. That latter version has a sense of manageability.

Good “players” routinely employ this technique. In the newness of our meeting, we cannot tell so quickly the real from the game. One tip— players prefer weak prey. They seek the type of person who is slightly off balance and topples easily by sheer velocity of the spin. The effect is greater when we are prone to “outer referral”— meaning we get our self-validation from an outer source, especially from their attention. Easy prey for the spin cycle are those who are seeking love, needing the confirmation of another, or who are in any other way vulnerable. It’s great to be vulnerable and open. For those not grounded, they mimic clothes that amass together in a washing machine, thumping their way through this cycle.

The faster the ride up, the faster the descent down. Here is where the giddy emotional response can hit like a tsunami, or gently blow like a breeze. To slow the cycle of spin, one must first realize that they’re “being spun.” Then, pro-actively slow the pace. The thrill of a new romance is the stuff of dreams… excitement, passion, and the lure of the hopeful unknown. We have no idea if we are being spun for conquest or retainment. But in the spin, the ride is fast and furious with spikes and peaks of emotion. The bait, the lure, the chase and the dance… are all elements of the game of seduction. Heady, powerful and delirious with delight, the energy of our life-force opens when magnified by another. This is the wonderful dazzling spin cycle at work, as we venture out toward an unknown future with a new partner. The players who spin us, are new cast members. There is much to be revealed, and in the spin, the push is fast in its singularity of focus. The spin cycle wants us to get off balance. That’s the point of the exercise. This is the art of seduction in its initiation.

Seduction of this nature, is normally the prelude to an intense affair. It lacks the slow methodical pace of one who is looking for a steady partner. It lacks the prolonged process of getting to know the other person, and learning all their thoughts, values and goals. Because it is seduction, the game uses the power of rapidity built into its design. There isn’t time to think clearly, only time to react. The magnitude of that force drives the goal forward, in the hopes of our giving into the moment of ecstasy. Whether we chose to take this ride, or not, is up to us. But at least know… you are being spun.