The Early Twenties

By the time a guy reaches his mid-twenties, life begins to take on a sense of structure. He’s had a chance to date, probably had a relationship or two, and has a better idea of who he is and what he wants. He’s sensing stability in his work life, and now, is able to extend that stability to a relationship. He has more internal confidence. The little day-to-day things that were an issue in his early twenties, are greeted with a known game plan.

Much of a man’s identity lies within their job. Society places a premium on men’s worth, via who they are in the workplace. This is changing, of course, as the world advances in its understanding of roles for men beyond their title, and beyond status. But having centuries of this behind them to shape their thinking, most men still see their worth  in term of accomplishment. It is in that way that they also see themselves as capable (and ready) to have a serious partnership.

Men have a peculiar twist on this, that women do not. While women are focused on their career, few would exclude the possibility of love in regards to timing. Men tend to look at “timing” as everything. They have been taught to be the bread winner, even in the current climate of equal and shared finances. Men still need to feel ready. And, “ready” simply means financially ready. This is where the mid-twenties improve for the women dating a younger man. At this age, as men gain their sense of economic security, they now feel ready to include a woman. Many of the previous fears of the early twenties have vanished. The mid-twenties are a time of increased inner security, met by known outer achievement.