The Forties

The Forties are a glorious time for women. Finally beyond of the confusion of the thirties, women in their forties now sit squarely in the seat of our power. The forties are a time of clearing. The energy loss sustained in the thirties gives way to energy gained, as major life decisions have been clarified. The choice between career vs. family has been made. And, for those who still want it all, the possibility of combining the best of both worlds has become a reality. As career stability has lead to increasing opportunity, in her forties, a woman’s personal/professional power is in its zenith.

The forties are, to my mind, the best of all decades. A woman’s personal power is solid and secure. She’s had the time to see herself win and lose. She’s loved and lost. She’s loved and been loved. She’s left jobs, and left friends that didn’t support her dreams. She’s found new skills and new associations that allow her to flourish. A woman in her forties knows she can handle all of life’s up and downs with grace and ease.

A woman in her forties is the flower in full blossom. She’s at the height of her physical beauty.  She’s comfortable with both her sexual allure, and sexual expression. She’s learned the benefit of being real. As the outer begins to show the minor signs of a life well lived, her inner content has grown. There is the tremendous discovery of what is truly important, and what is not. Life becomes a loosely worn garment, as the inner confidence of life management and emotional management flow with ease.

In dating and relationships, a woman in her forties has seen it all, and yet has eyes that are ready to discover the new. There is a fearlessness borne of internal power, and a curiosity borne of internal confidence. With her younger partners, she can communicate easily. Games are of no interest. She will tell her partners what she wants, and what she needs. She will explore new options, having the inner fortitude to do so. She will avoid relationships that minimize her worth, as she is firmly grounded in personal value.

Dating a woman in her forties, is to know a woman at her fullest expression of power. For the younger men who have enough confidence to do so, it is an acknowledgment of their own power, as well.