The Thirties

The priorities for women in their thirties, are similar to the priorities of men in their thirties. It’s a time to plan for the life ahead. This is a time of career advancement and personal focus. The process of  gaining stability economically is of major concern. As women continue to evolve in socio-economic terms, the thirties are a time to dig in one’s heels and create a stable future. But, there are two different types of women who date in their thirties. And, they have vastly different value systems. These two distinct groups are separated by their ideology regarding career:

1.Those who are interested in their career as a life expression.

2.Those who simply work for a living.

The first group represents women who love their work. Whether they love the adventure involved in attaining their goals, or the benefits of work well accomplished, their focus is on climbing the corporate, or artistic ladder. While in their thirties, they also enjoy an active social life. They tend to date several men, while not specifically focused on “finding a relationship.” Or they may have a steady partner, but the big push for marriage/family is on the back-burner. Whether partnered or solo, when a woman is of this group, she is still dominantly work oriented. In the early thirties, there seems ample time to have both a career and a family. The emphasis is on creating a financial foundation. A woman at this juncture can be open to love, but it’s not her primary goal.

The second group are the women who find themselves “working for a living.” They may or may not enjoy their jobs. Their job is seen as a means to an end. They far more apt to see relationships the  important life goal.  If this is the type of woman you are dating, marriage and family may indeed be her primary concern. It’s wise, as a younger man, to know which of these two types you are dating. Ask questions about her job, and her long-term goals. She may be ready for a solid partnership, and you are not. Or, she may not yet be ready, and you are. It’s worth taking time to speak honestly. Many a younger man has been hurt by dating a woman whose primary goal is her job, only to find he’s not solidly in the picture. And many an older woman has been needlessly disappointed by a man who feigns serious interest, and isn’t ready.