Age Doesn’t Equal Experience

There is a myth that has long surrounded the involvement of physical intimacy between younger men and older women. It is the following:

1.Older, equals greater sexual knowledge.

2.Younger, equals less sexual knowledge.

Certainly, older woman have had more time in which to learn about their sexuality. But that factor is significantly altered by their former life choices. Have they been in a long-standing marriage? Did they have the opportunity to experience other lovers? And if so, at what level of partnership?

Younger generations have been allowed the social freedom to experiment sexually. What would have been considered socially unacceptable behavior in former times, is now routine. Hook-ups are a normal part of youthful sexual experimentation. My colleagues have sited statistical research that estimates, the average American female college graduate has had over 80 sexual partners. This is, I must add, a low average. Other researchers in this field claim the norm is well over 100. With little or no societal repercussion, today’s young women appear to have greater sexual experience than their older counterparts. The question of experience then becomes— is more, better?

We’ve long heard the merits of sex between a younger man and older woman. Hot, passionate, and incredible. And yes, it is true. But not all older women come from the same mind-set. They don’t all have the same sense of adventure, and don’t all have the desire for experimentation. Those that do, are part of this on-going legend. They are from a unique category. Free in spirit and mind, they are the women who approach life with a sense of undeniable self confidence and yearning for complete expression. They are bold and fearless. They are the best version of a life fully lived, with no regrets.

And this is a long-standing component of the great sex so often claimed by both parties, younger and older. It is the older women who knows herself, and knows what she wants who represents the icon of sexual attraction and confidence. As women continue to evolve, they find themselves freer to attain the vision they seek in life; powerful and free. It is this woman, to whom younger men are drawn. It is this kind of woman who is courageous enough to partner with a younger man. She has listened to herself, rather than the voices of a world that seek to dictate her behavior. She has embraced her personal choices, and and followed the dictates of her inner truth. She is the kind of woman who is able to express herself in all ways, including sexuality. It’s a potent mind-set. Its expression creates an amazing ability to communicate sexually, and enjoy all that this form of communication involves. More partners, doesn’t mean better sex. But a partner willing to live their fullest expression, does make a better lover.