By Mary Grace Garis 

You partnered up for the pandemic, but will your relationship last as the world reopens? Do you want it to last? Ask yourself the 4 questions I shared with Mary Grace Garis at Well+Good.

Mary writes, “This past year in lockdown is about to be revealed as the longest cuffing season ever. Especially with the promise of a summer wherein folks everywhere are vaccinated, and thus able to safely share physical space and nest, plenty of those ambiguous-seeming situationships you’ve heard about are set to expire. Likewise, if you’re someone who partnered up in the pandemic, you might understandably have some anxieties of your own at the moment to manage. So, as the world slowly begins reopening, how can you really tell whether or not your pandemic relationship is the real deal?

Well, in the same way you would check whether any type of romantic connection—pandemic or not—has run its course. By evaluating how compatible you two genuinely are—in a global crisis and otherwise. If you’re not sure your turbo relationship can stand the test of time, or you want to feel confident that you partnered up well, we have a little check list for you: Below, relationship expert Susan Winter shares four questions to ask yourself, to see if your pandemic relationship is true blue, or not so much.

4 questions to ask yourself to decipher whether your pandemic relationship is the real deal

1. “Do I see a future with this person?”

For those looking to settle down or at least get serious, it’s time to reevaluate if this feels like a sustainable bond. You may be noticing certain character qualities or lifestyle choice may not have aged well on the other side of this pandemic.

Ask yourself: If we were out in the real world today and able to have a wider selection, would we still choose to be with each other? “This is how to discern if your partner was ‘of the moment,’ or ‘someone for your future,’” Winter says.

2. “Was I choosing out of lack and desperation?”

It’s never good to operate in a scarcity mindset, which is the survival state a lot of us have been in as of late during the pandemic. In the before times, you might’ve held yourself to higher standards, but when stay-at-home orders hit, anybody with antibodies felt like a winner to a lot of folks. “The lockdown limited our romantic prospects and put everyone in a panic,” says Winter. “Between food shortages and jobs lost, we were all making crucial decisions with limited information.””

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