Getting to partnership is a process. The first part of which involves you.
You must be very clear about the type of connection you want. Once that is formulated, in day-to-day life you will continue to send that message out into the world.
You can’t get to partnership by sending out mixed signals.
Dating for fun and sexual liaisons is one idea, and long-term partnership another. If you haven’t focused clearly on your preference, you will attract a partner with their own preference which may not be to your liking.
Once you know the type of experience you prefer, focus on that and that alone. Then, go and live your life. You’ve got your image of partnership in place. Trust the process, and trust yourself.
Being clear is necessary regarding the characteristics you want in a mate. We’ve all heard the endless lists people create regarding physical and monetary attributes. Yes. That can be had. But the package will not be pleasing if it doesn’t contain the contents you want.
It’s not enough just to want someone to want you. It’s not enough just to want physical attraction.
Considering internal qualities such as disposition, ethics, values and personality are vitally important. Isn’t it really those issues that break up a romance? When we are not on the same page as far as values, some situation will appear to highlight that discrepancy, often ending the relationship.
I’ve recently heard from two women I know who have met the partner of their dreams. Both of them desired marriage, and it is now their reality. By the way, it’s a first marriage for both ladies. And, they are mature— one in her late 40’s, the other in her early-fifties. Impossible? No. True.
If we were to listen to the words of the world, this never happens. But people are getting smarter about using the power they have to manifest what they want.
The basics of spirituality have filtered through to mainstream thinking, and while it has always been available to us, many are now applying these principles in earnest. You don’t need to have a spiritual doctrine to gain mastery over your life. Just the knowledge that you can indeed create what you want by being clear and consistent with your desires and focus.
While their approach was different, the thread that united these two women was their absolute clarity on what they wanted, in detail. With this idea securely in place, they not only had ability to recognize their mate, but their mates also recognized them.
Both women were sending out one consistent signal.
In detail, each of these two men matched the desires of partnership that were being offered. Interestingly, neither lady was too detailed in her physical demands.
Don’t misunderstand— I’ve met both men and they are very good looking. Neither lady went into great depth concerning external image. One, being 5’11” obviously wanted a tall man. She got that, along with a physique and face that could be on billboards.
The other only wanted to feel attraction for her partner when he came into her life. Her fiance is vibrant, sexy, handsome and very fit. Both men have warm personalities and eyes only for their woman. They are committed to partnership, and they too desired the exact type of romance, the ladies wanted.
Partnership isn’t a distant impossibility. It’s a reality people are discovering every day. The fact that it comes more quickly for some, only indicates constancy in their desire.
Unlike other advice being given, where you are told to go out and get that partner through games and seductive techniques, I suggest getting clear on your desires and allowing that partner to show up, who also wants the same.
Dating for fun and sexual liaisons is one idea, and long-term partnership another. If you haven’t focused clearly on your preference, you will attract a partner with their own preference which may not be to your liking. Once you know the type of experience you prefer, focus on that and that alone.
Then, go and live your life. You’ve got your image of partnership in place. Trust the process, and trust yourself.