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Whoa, there! Nick Jonas popped the question to Priyanka Chopra after just two months of dating; Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin, same (after rekindling their romance); and Pete Davidson put a ring on Ariana Grande’s left hand after four weeks.
While fast-track relationships are not new, what makes them so surprising is that they’re at odds with the leisurely way most young people date today. The typical drill: You hang out as friends or hookup buddies before gradually becoming exclusive and taking things to the next level.
“Singles want to explore their dating options and make sure they’re picking the right person,” explains biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., who calls this the slow-love movement.
“They get to know everything about a partner before they commit.” And a study out of Emory University shows that couples who date for at least three years before locking things down are almost 40 percent less likely to split than those who commit seriously within a year.
Playing the slow game isn’t without its issues though. In fact, the noncommittal gray area it creates may explain the sudden shift toward zero-to-one-hundred courtships. “Fast love is a reaction to hookup culture and all the sloppy, vague ‘situation-ships’ where people aren’t making decisions,” says Susan Winter, a relationship expert in New York City.
Obvi, when it comes to your dating life, you have to move at a pace that feels right to you, says Carol Bruess, Ph.D., professor emeritus of communication and family studies at the University of St. Thomas in Minnesota and coauthor of What Happy Couples Do. But know this: Your past dating experiences and -personality definitely play a role.
Considering which speed you gravitate toward, heed our experts’ advice to better assess your feelings for someone and make sure you’re moving at the perrrfect pace.
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