By Nasha Smith
How to show up and celebrate special occasions when you’re in a long-distance relationship
Wondering how to celebrate special occasions in your LDR? My interview with Business Insider India explains why taping into your partner’s love language hits the mark perfectly: #LDR #celebrations #5lovelanguages
- “The holidays might look different this year, especially for those in long-distance relationships who may not be able to see their partner in person.
- Knowing your love language and your partner’s love language can make communicating from afar a lot easier.
- Be sure to switch up your forms of communication, whether it’s through video chats, phone calls, or physical letters.
- Plan ahead when you can so you both have set expectations and plans to look forward to.
Long-distance relationships can be tough – especially when it’s time to celebrate major milestones.
With the ongoing pandemic causing many to avoid travel and practice precautionary protocols like social distancing, long-distance couples may be feeling further apart than ever. But with a little bit of creativity, the distance doesn’t have to be so daunting.
Insider spoke to three relationship experts about some of the ways long-distance couples can stay connected while celebrating anniversaries and special occasions this year.
Lean into you and your partner’s love languages
Gary Chapman’s best-selling book “The Five Love Languages” was released in 1992 – and it remains popular and relevant to this day for a reason. Its general premise is that individuals experience and express love through words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and/or physical touch.
Knowing your and your partner’s love language can help you express love effectively and plan special activities for anniversary celebrations, said NYC-based relationship expert and best-selling author Susan Winter
Winter said that those who appreciate words of affirmation may enjoy taking turns sharing cherished memories, no matter how big or small they may be.
“You’re going to create a list to share with each other of the times you remember that were the sweetest, funniest, most poignant, and silliest,” she told Insider. “What we do is we reignite our partner’s remembrance of why we are together as a couple.”
Winter also said that gift-giving can be important around the holidays, so it’s worth planning ahead and putting thought into what you wish to send.
She also said that thoughtfulness, not extravagance, is key when it comes to giving presents. Winter said that, whether handmade or store-bought, gifts should show that you have listened to and paid attention to your partner this year. For example, giving a scrapbook of photos your partner has always meant to get printed or a pair of earbuds to replace the ones they broke last week.”