BY CAILYN COX
What do you do when you’re no longer attracted to your partner? My interview in Glam gives you these options: #attraction #sexualintimacy #relationshipreboot #chemistry
Caitlyn writes, “The beginning of a relationship is often filled with passion and excitement, but what happens when that wears off and you settle for stability and comfort? Feeling at ease in your relationship is a beautiful thing, but it can also make us less eager to try new experiences, spend quality time with our partner, and break out of the monotony of routine — and this could lead to a loss of attraction.
“In long-term relationships, it’s not uncommon for attraction amongst partners to dissipate,” sex therapist and Sexology podcast host Nazanin Moali told HuffPost. “We take for granted that just because we were attracted to our partner once, the same attraction will stay forever without effort.” But what happens when you are no longer attracted to your partner? Does this mean the relationship is doomed?
Not so fast … there are some steps you can take to try and reignite the spark and rediscover what it is about your partner that drew you to them in the first place.
Try to get back to basics
Was there a time when you felt connected to your partner? You may be able to return to this point, but it will take some work, and you’ll need to shift your focus to get back to the basics. This step can be easier said than done, but spending more time together and prioritizing the relationship may remind you why there was that initial spark.
“Loss of attraction tends to develop over time when partners no longer share new or exciting experiences,” therapist Rebecca Phillips told Fatherly. “When you’re no longer curious about your partner, you can feel stagnant and bored.”
Focus on what your relationship was like in the past and what you found attractive about your partner. You may also have to get to know them again and take the time to learn what makes them happy or excites them. Putting in the effort may feel tiring, but doing this could help you to realize the attraction is still there. It just needs to be nurtured.
Sexual intimacy can be incredibly important (but not for everyone)
We all have different love languages and needs, and understanding whether you and your partner are on the same page about things can help you understand why you are feeling this way. One of the reasons for the disconnect could be due to sexual intimacy.
If one of you finds being connected through sexual actions to be incredibly important, while the other person does not crave this connection as much, it could be making you feel unattracted to your partner or disappointed in the relationship. And you would not be the only couple to experience this.
“To some individuals, a rewarding sex life is the need and expectation of a committed relationship,” relationship expert and author Susan Winter told Bustle. “To other individuals, it isn’t that important in the grand scheme of things. True, they’d prefer feeling excited by their partner, but the upheaval caused by ending the relationship isn’t worth the price.”
Continue Reading: https://www.glam.com/1280959/no-longer-attracted-partner-what-now/
