Before stepping out into the world of dating you’ll need to create your vision. You may have just left a disastrous partnership. Or, you may be in the process of getting clear on what you want in light of your past dating experiences. Whatever your starting point, it’s a good idea is to formulate a “best-case scenario” vision that works for you. It works, because you already know it works. Here’s a simple guide to finding your ideal vision in a new mate. It defines [...]
Before entering a new relationship and well before you hit the dating scene, it's wise to process your past. Package it; completely organized and sorted in a manner that allows you to enter the new partnership "clean." By that I mean, open and willing to embrace a new connection while not holding onto resentments and negative impressions. It's important to clear the past in order to manifest a new reality. Whatever happened, happened. If you bring resentment and pain forward into your new sphere, you [...]
There's the tendency for people to feel uncomfortable in the "in between" times, while awaiting loves entry. Whether it's the desire to date someone special or to secure a sexual partner... there is a sense of incompleteness that attends most of this process. That drive comes from the inner urge to find partnership in the hopes of new beginnings. There can be daunted expectations or frustrated attempts. In this time period, it's important to continue to live life. And, to live life fully. We can't [...]
At the core of my dating advice is the need to secure my clients in their own self-esteem and personal power. Dating and relationships are the tricky transit of merging with another, and in doing so the end-result is often a compromise of who we are. There's something unique about the dating and mating process that triggers the need for acceptance. The extremes to which some people feel compelled to amend their preferences and attitudes in order to obtain love, is alarming. When the desire [...]
Dating isn't an interview. Targeted questions to extract ones merit isn't communication. It's judgement. When response is the goal, guard and skepticism attend automatically. The commonly used "10 question format" backfires as it increases the potential for false information. This style of assessing compatibility leaves both individuals disillusioned and frustrated. Interrogation isn't dating. Ferreting out desired answers and/or calculating errors, cannot lead you to the truth. Only an open heart will provide the answers you seek. I've spent the better half of my adulthood as [...]
