By Susan Winter We run companies. We run countries. Regardless of advanced college degrees and net worth… at the end of the day a woman’s worth is still judged by youth and beauty. Is it fair? No. Is it an accurate assessment? No. But the big cog of social perception moves slowly. For centuries, a woman's youth and beauty were the determinant of her worth. When we listen to the world we forget our truth. When the voices of social assessment scream more loudly than our [...]
Cougars: each year fashion magazines pick a color and rename it as the ‘new black.’ Similarly, the media is now stating women are the ‘new men.’ But this economic trend isn’t a fad. It’s a concrete power shift that’s proving its continuing reality as it changes the entire social dynamic between our two genders. Women have out-paced men in securing greater numbers of advanced college degrees. We’re out-earning our male counterparts despite a non-equal pay scale. Recent statistics herald women as the “breadwinner” in 40% [...]
By Susan Winter In light of modern dating having “no rules,” what’s the right (and the wrong) approach to take when meeting a prospective partner? Clearly, the “wrong” approach is to use antiquated methodology. You’re not using an abacus to prepare your taxes, right? Traditional rules of approach instruct us to reek of self-confidence and power. Women are to posture themselves as unattainable goddesses and men are to be as smooth as James Bond. When “image” substitutes for reality, no meaningful connection can be made. Dating [...]
By Susan Winter Rule #1: There are no rules. There are no “rules” to modern dating. When applying the rules of romance from former time periods, we force modern-day individuals to squeeze themselves into a smaller version of who they are. Our current social climate includes vast changes (including female empowerment and open sexuality), and therefore calls for new ways of being. Each needs to create a new design of their own making, and one that is in alignment with their specific goals. Roles of defined [...]
Breakup can have two distinctly different meanings. They can be exactly what they are, and they can also be the opposite of what they seem to be. A breakup can mean, “I’m done here. It’s really over.” Or, it can be a plea for proof of your love. This type of breakup comes as a threat, which is saying, “I love you. You’re hurting me. I want to stay with you but I feel scared, insecure and unappreciated. Step up to the plate and prove [...]
