Why do people stay in bad relationships? My video feature for Your Tango explains how insecurity and the fear of being alone sets us up for unhealthy partnerships.
The Mind’s Journal writes, “Why do we often find it difficult to leave behind a relationship that is not working out anymore?”
Not necessarily all relationships will emerge as you wish them to. Some relationships begin on good terms, go through trials of highs and lows, yet survive because the relationship has all the basic requirements — trust, connectivity, and respect. But, due to a number of uncontrollable factors, both internal and external, a relationship might turn into a toxic one.
A bad relationship is one that is long dead, has no spark, is filled with miscommunication, or at times a complete lack of communication, repeated conflicts, and arguments, and an absence of empathy, respect, and understanding. A relationship that hinges on abuse and manipulation is the worst kind. But surprisingly, people keep dragging a relationship on, even after knowing that it is not yielding any good results for either of the partners.
Here are the 6 most common reasons why we stay in toxic relationships:
1. To avoid being lonely
- Loneliness can make one feel like it’s the end of the world.
- It significantly lowers a person’s self-confidence and distorts overall self-perception.
- Someone who has been in the grasp of loneliness would never like to return back there.
- Being in a committed relationship has a social connotation.
- Some people are of the belief that having a partner and being able to flaunt it increases your social status and reputation.
- The mere physical presence of your partner, no matter how abusive, how inconsiderate, or how indifferent to you that he/she is, can sometimes make you feel comfortable.
We often hesitate to let go of our ‘habit’ of the person.
2. Low self-esteem
- Functioning with low-self esteem is like fighting a battle within yourself every single moment.
- You constantly keep questioning your own worth, your capacities, and what you are bringing to the relationship.
- Low self-esteem fools us into thinking that we always deserve much less than what we are getting from the relationship as the significance we put to ourselves is much lower than our deserving value.
- These people tend to measure their worth based on whether they have a partner or not, whether the partner accepts them or not, values them or not, or appreciates them or not.”
Continue reading the remaining 6 reasons in the full article here: https://www.yourtango.com/heartbreak/common-reasons-stay-toxic-relationships
