BY DIANA KURZEJA

You think your is lying to you…but how should you confront them? My interview with The List presents healthy guidelines for this difficult conversation: #lying #communication #datingadvice

Diana writes, “When you’re in a committed relationship, honesty and trust are two of the most important virtues both you and your partner should share. A relationship without these virtues is one that is more vulnerable to deception, disrespect, and conflict. It’s important to feel comfortable around your partner, but it can be near impossible if your significant other has a tendency to twist the truth or if you have a sense that something is off.

A 2010 study published in Human Communication Research surveyed 1,000 adults in the U.S. to gauge how often people lie. In a 24-hour period, most of the adults who participated reported not telling any lies, and nearly half of the lies recorded made up just 5% of the participants. Although many people prefer to choose the honest route, there are some who rely on lying to get by. If you’re looking for signs that your relationship can last a lifetime, you’ll want to make sure your partner is being honest.

How to confront your partner if they’ve lied to you

Confronting a partner who isn’t telling the truth can be nerve-racking. When you talk to your partner, stay calm and composed, even if they become defensive or angry. A bad reaction from your partner could be a sign that your partner is gaslighting you. Susan Winter, a relationship expert and love coach, told via Elite Daily it’s best to “let them speak without your reactivity [and] refrain from commentary until they’re fully expressed themselves.” This will help you have a productive conversation without lashing out and letting it turn into an argument.

Express your boundaries to your partner, and let them know that you won’t tolerate any lies in the future. By being honest about your expectations, your partner has a choice to respect them and your relationship. Be honest, open, and accepting with your partner to help ensure that they feel comfortable and safe being honest with you in the future.

Continue Reading: https://www.thelist.com/1251737/think-your-partner-is-lying-to-you-the-answer-could-be-in-the-details/