By Rita Kumar

What’s the correct protocol for returning an engagement ring? Is it okay if you donate it to fund a good cause (rather than keep it)? My interview with @AmoMama. #divorce

Rita writes, “Divorce would be the last thing on your mind when spending a lump sum on a sparkly engagement ring. Unfortunately, not every engagement ends in marriage. One woman donated her engagement ring to an auction, unaware it was her ex’s family heirloom, and asked him to bid if he wanted it back.

Although diamonds are a woman’s best friend, many guys would forcefully take that friend away when they realize that divorce is on the horizon. One Redditor thought she’d help her friend with his fund-raiser event by donating her ex’s heirloom ring. A few weeks later, he showed up at her door to retrieve his family treasure.

Some women voluntarily return their rings because they were heirlooms. No guy would let his ex keep a symbol of his family tradition. That begs the question—would they stay calm after knowing their ex had donated their precious ring?

When you rummage through your jewelry box and see that engagement ring your ex slipped onto your finger, you might completely freeze up. However, one Redditor donated it to an auction to help her friend raise money to build an orphanage. Little did she know her ex would be coming back for it.

In some cases, people prefer repurposing the ring instead of giving it away. A Reddit user explained her boyfriend asked her if she would accept an engagement ring he’d designed for his ex-girlfriend in a now-deleted account.

“Something in my heart just can’t get over the fact that the ring was originally made for someone else in mind. He assured me that she never wore it, but I just don’t want something that wasn’t made for me,” she wrote.

Several relationship experts like Susan Winter and April Masini think she might be right for wanting a new ring instead of the one intended for a previous relationship. Masini thought the Redditor should trust her instincts and suggested replacing the ring with a new one to make the fiancée feel special.

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