People are calling Arie’s behavior on ‘The Bachelor’ abusive — but experts say it isn’t that simple | Insider interview

By Sara Hendricks

Was Arie’s behavior abusive? Susan Winter, a relationship expert and best-selling author, thinks that the breakup scene between Arie and Becca is representative of issues she sees in modern dating culture. “Arie seemed caught between guilt and wanting to make himself feel better, which gave everything he said a subtext of  ‘I should act like I care about this’ [more than any genuine emotion],” Winter told INSIDER.