Is your partner’s snoring ruining your serenity (and relationship)? Chronic sleep deprivation creates resentment and frayed emotions. My interview with InsideHook offers a solution: #snoring #marriage #sleepdeprivation

There are many wonderful things about sharing a bed with a romantic partner — the intimacy of falling asleep in each other’s arms and the ease with which morning sex can be seamlessly initiated, to name a few. You haven’t known true love, however, until you’ve been rudely awakened by the sound of your partner’s snoring, then spent the rest of the night staring down that loudly slumbering angel and hating them with every fiber of your being.

Naturally, nightly bouts of snoring-induced hatred coupled with sleep deprivation isn’t exactly a recipe for a happy, healthy relationship. Snoring is a relatively minor but extremely common annoyance that can have a big impact on relationships, and it’s something couples deal with all the damn time.

“Snoring is a common relationship complaint amongst couples who cohabitate,” says Susan Winter, bestselling author and relationship expert, adding that this issue is particularly common in relationships in which one partner, usually the non-snorer, identifies as a light sleeper while their lawnmower of a bed partner slumbers heavily and blissfully undisturbed. “To the light sleeper, this feels ‘unfair,’” says Winter. “When their hard-won sleep is interrupted by a snoring mate, anger and resentment begin to fester.”

How can snoring affect your relationship?

“We all know how important a good night’s sleep is to our mental disposition,” says Winter. “The chronically tired partner is more reactive to daily upsets, making run of the mill relationship issues more challenging.”

Over time, “Chronic lack of sleep creates an ongoing state of mental exhaustion. This isn’t a good foundation for dealing with relationship issues,” adds Winter. “Our thinking lacks clarity when we’re overly tired for prolonged periods of time. Judgment is impaired, causing rash decisions about the relationship and our partner.”

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