Couples everywhere: Here’s why you (or they) can’t ever find anything | CNN News interview
Couples everywhere: Here’s why you (or they) can’t ever find anything. It’s not your fault.
Does your partner routinely misplace their keys, phone, or glasses (and it’s your job to find these items)? My interview with CNN explains organizational differences and how to alleviate bickering with your mate.
“Where are the stamps?” I asked my wife.
“I can’t believe you are asking me. They are right where they always are,” she yelled from across the room.
This does nothing to help me in my quest. The stamps are nowhere to be found.
My wife and I engage in this dance, a common couple’s refrain, no less than three times per week.
Replace “stamp” with any number of other household items and it’s the same conversation, sometimes argument, about how I can’t find anything — because she moved it! — and how I can’t find anything — because I don’t look hard enough!
“It’s true that opposites attract,” said Susan Winter, relationship expert and bestselling author who has extensively researched relationship challenges and personal empowerment. “A messy person will oftentimes align with a neat freak. The uptight, overly stressed out individual will be drawn to the relaxed, easy going type. It’s part of our internal balancing process. We attract a mate who possesses the parts of our life that are disowned, or undiscovered.”
For the couple who perpetually feels misaligned when it comes to losing household items or the opposite — always having to help their lost partner find them — the roles we often inhabit inform which person in the pair we become.