By: Zoe Coetzee
In summer 2018, EliteSingles conducted a survey to uncover the biggest, most pressing relationship questions you have about love and dating today. Gathering some of the best advice from a selection of leading experts from around the world, EliteSingles answers these burning relationship questions here. With everything you need to know, we set out to demystify some of the mystery surrounding relationships, love and dating…

The burning topics: your love questions

So, what were the pressing questions you wanted answered? We surveyed 2700 participants to uncover the most popular questions and topics.  The top four relationship topics that you wish you knew more about were: starting to date (65%), being in a relationship (55%), online dating and apps (44%) and sex (18%).

We then selected the most popular questions from each area and asked relationship experts worldwide to share their advice and answers to the big questions. From a professional wingman to dating coaches and psychotherapists, we have all the bases covered!

But first off – who do people choose to turn to when they have a relationship question? 60% of women said they would ask a friend about their real relationship questions, while surprisingly, 66% of men also said that they would seek out relationship advice! But almost a third of men prefer to keep it to themselves (32%), with only 16% of women saying the same. Interestingly, 11% of people said they would turn to Google – even more popular than asking a family member, which was only favored by 7%! With all these questions, it seems that some real relationship advice is in order…

Breaking down your love questions: everything you want to know from the top experts

Biggest relationship questions: about relationships

Biggest relationship questions: about being single

Biggest relationship questions: about sex

Biggest relationship questions: about online dating and apps

Biggest relationship questions: Google’s most searched 

Biggest relationship questions: about modern dating

Biggest relationship questions: about long-term relationships

Biggest relationship questions: about love

Big relationships questions: Google’s most searched relationship questions you want answered

Last year, Google released a list of the most searched for relationship questions. Putting them out to popular vote, we let you choose the one you wanted answered. We asked Susan Winter,bestselling author and NYC relationship expert, to answer your most popular Google relationship question. The burning question with 28% of the votes…

 What does a healthy relationship look like?

Susan Winter: The tricky thing about this question is that many people don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. For those individuals that grew up in an environment marred by arguments, drama and emotional manipulation, figuring out what’s “healthy” requires constructing a romantic model from scratch.

• Healthy relationships bring out the best in us, rather than the worst. That’s the first clear marker that delineates healthy from unhealthy partnerships.
• We feel good about ourselves when in the presence of our mate. This is in direct opposition to feeling insecure, anxious, and frightened.
• Healthy relationships have a comfortable balance of give-and-take. No one partner is locked into the role of giver, and no one partner is locked into the role of taker.
• You and your mate enjoy being together. This means you like each other, as well as love each other.
• Healthy relationships enjoy conflict resolution. Every partnership has its issues. But in healthy relationships, there is a meeting of the minds, negotiation and resolution. Unhealthy partnerships live in a repeating cycle of conflict that’s never resolved.
• In healthy relationships, both partners feel free to express their thoughts and feelings. There’s an innate sense of safety and security within the partnership that allows for honesty.

That initial phone call is the perfect time to ask easy questions like “How long have you been single?” or “Do you enjoy your work?” Which often naturally leads to very important revelations that you need to know!

Building trust in your partnership comes down to trusting that when a betrayal does occur, each person is committed to the process of repair.

This means that each person can take responsibility for and acknowledge they will at times make mistakes, get it wrong for the other person and hurt the other. Additionally, they also trust in each other’s commitment to move forward and repair the relationship, even using the experience as a way to strengthen the relationship.So that’s a wrap! Solving the biggest relationship questions and answers with the best expert advice, appreciate and cultivate the adventure of love, relationships and dating today. For more great relationship advice, check out the EliteSingles magazine, or follow us on Facebook and Twitter.

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