By Brie Schmidt

Disastrous vacation with your mate? Traveling together will reveal your dispositional differences. Before you ditch your relationship, read my interview in Glam Magazine to make the right call: #disastrousvacation #datingadvice #ditchrelationship

Brie writes, “Vacations are meant to be a fun and relaxing escape from everyday life — just picture yourself sipping margs poolside, laying on the beach, or sleeping in as long as you want. But they can also be a recipe for relationship conflict. Between booking flights, choosing which attractions are worth visiting, and dealing with snafus like smelly hotel rooms or getting lost in a foreign city, there’s a lot to worry — and argue — about.

That might explain why 40% of pairs argue every day while vacationing together, according to a survey by Holiday Autos (via DailyMail.com). And for one in ten couples, a disastrous vacation is enough to tear them apart.

If you and your significant other are constantly bickering while traveling, it can ruin your vacation. But does that mean your relationship is ruined too? Here’s what it means if you and your partner experience trouble in paradise and how to deal.

Why vacation conflict happens

Chill vacation vibes mean stress-free time with your other half, right?

Sometimes, physical and mental health triggers can also lead to vacation fights. According to Medical News Today, stress, anxiety, and phobias (like, say, being afraid of flying), and a lack of sleep (hello, jet lag!) can all cause irritability. So can a hangover after downing too many cocktails at the resort bar. Staying healthy when you’re traveling can go a long way in preventing misunderstandings and bickering between you and your partner.

What to learn from a couple’s vacation gone bad

Your vacation with your S.O. is a disaster — now what? If the issues you’re facing seem constructive, not destructive, to your relationship, consider what lessons can be learned. For example, you might see the silver lining of your disagreements and learn to appreciate your different approaches to travel and decision-making.

You might also learn a lot about each other’s core needs. “In truth, when we’re getting our needs met, we’re less grumpy with our travel mate. Most of the friction comes from not getting our ‘must-do’ and then feeling resentment and anger,” Susan Winter, a relationship expert and love coach, revealed to Elite Daily. She suggests couples talk about their vacation needs as soon as possible, ideally before the trip even starts.

If you’re struggling to make amends during a heated argument, take a time-out. There’s nothing wrong with spending some time separately while traveling – The Gottman Institute, an institute for relationship research, even recommends it. Hit up a museum or cute cafe on your own, using it as a chance to reflect on your relationship. A little time apart can sometimes be all you need to gain perspective and get back to enjoying those romantic walks on the beach and exotic dinners together.”

Continue Reading: https://www.glam.com/1218158/should-you-ditch-your-relationship-after-a-disastrous-vacation/