“Where have all the good men gone?” is an often-stated reaction to our current dating environment. But, is it accurate? And if so, how can women reroute bad behavior and find their true love?
I was truly honored to be able to work with my colleague and fellow Magnifi provider, Anita Stoudmire. Anita is a licensed professional therapist and love mentor who founded Better Love Movement, an online coaching business that helps women of all ages master their feminine power and create the relationships they want.
She also has a private counseling practice in Virginia; Growth Therapy Center that focuses on couples counseling and relationship issues for singles. Anita is passionate about all things love and relationships as she knows that the quality of our lives are that much richer when our personal relationships are healthy and fulfilling. She creates online courses, is an author, speaker and host of the podcast Better Love Movement.
Anita said, “We had the best discussion on dating and where are all the good men. I get asked this question A LOT by my single female clients. They are always telling me that dating is “so hard” and that “there are no more good men out here!” So this brought back the memory of the song “Holding Out For A Hero” by Bonnie Tyler. Now I know that I am dating myself with that song, but I remember vividly her singing these lyrics:”
Where have all the good men gone
And where are all the gods?
Where’s the streetwise Hercules to fight the rising odds?
Isn’t there a white knight upon a fiery steed? Late at night, I toss and I turn
And I dream of what I need
I need a hero
I’m holding out for a hero ’til the end of the night
He’s gotta be strong
And he’s gotta be fast
And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight
I need a hero
I’m holding out for a hero ’til the morning light
He’s gotta be sure
And it’s gotta be soon
And he’s gotta be larger than life!
Larger than life
Anita continues, “Yes, I do think men have drastically changed from 20 years ago, but so have women! Women are putting up with things they would have NEVER stood for then! And I believe that when women decide that they won’t stand for this bad behavior anymore, and stop allowing some of this nonsense, then things will change. So much of what I do is to empower women to lean back and to use the most powerful thing they have to influence and inspire a man; their FEMININE ENERGY!”