Story by Diana Rose

Older women are no longer putting up with bad relationship behavior. My interview in MSN shares the 12 things they won’t tolerate (and why you shouldn’t either).

Journalist Diana Rose writes, “Let’s get one thing straight. The way women are approaching love and relationships after 40 or 50 isn’t just a little different; it’s a full-blown revolution. And the data backs it up. A recent study by TheSeniorList.com found that only 27% of single women over 50 are actively looking for a relationship, a stark contrast to the 43% of men in the same age group.

What’s going on here? It’s not that they’ve given up on love. It’s that they’ve found something even better: themselves. A German institute even coined a term for it, referring to this as the rise of a “Me Now” generation, women who are fiercely protective of their hard-won freedom.

This shift is happening alongside another massive trend: the “gray divorce.” The divorce rate for adults 65 and older has literally tripled since 1990. But instead of being a tragedy, for many women, it’s a graduation.

As relationship expert Susan Winter puts it, women in their forties are finally sitting “squarely in the seat of our power.” They know who they are. They know what they want. And they know that partnering is no longer about building a family or a fortune.”

Here are 12 more non-negotiable that older women will no longer tolerate, because they’ve lived long enough and seen enough to know, they simply don’t have to.

Playing Games and Tolerating Drama

According to my research in, Older Women/Younger Men; New Options for Love and Romance, the number one thing younger men loved about dating older women was the fact that they wouldn’t play games and wouldn’t tolerate games. It made their job of dating an older woman so much easier because she spoke honestly, told them what she wanted and needed, and was exceedingly clear in her communication.

This goes for dating a mature woman in general— independent of her partners age. There’s something that occurs when a woman matures. She knows who she is, and therefore, no longer needs to ‘play the game.’

Games are a substitute for REAL,  and used by people who’re still discovering who they want to be, as they try on different versions of themselves. They take their cues from the world around them, and live in reaction rather than response. It’s hard playing on this game board. Just when you think you’re winning the game, your partner pulls the rug out from under you.

Games are not the realm of a mature woman.

Life becomes far too short for foolishness. After building careers, raising families, and handling the beautiful chaos that comes with experience, a woman’s patience for contrived drama drops to zero.

She recognizes passive-aggressive behavior, manipulation, and petty conflict instantly—and has no desire to star in someone else’s emotional soap opera. Immature, drama-filled relationships feel exhausting, and she’s long past tolerating them.

At this point, peace isn’t just a preference; it’s a hard-won luxury. She sees drama for what it is: a direct drain on her most precious assets—her time and her energy.

For the other 11 things older women won’t put up with, Continue Reading:

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/12-things-older-women-won-t-put-up-with-in-relationships-anymore/ss-AA1IEBfo#image=1