BY SARA SANTORA

Giving your apartment key to a partner is a big step and shouldn’t feel coerced. My interview with @newsweek explains your inherent rights in this very personal decision: #livingtogether #boundaries

Sara writes, “The internet has come to the defense of a woman who said in a now-viral post that she recently refused to give her boyfriend of six months a copy of her apartment key.

Writing in Reddit‘s “Am I The A**hole” forum on Thursday under the username u/Squared-Zone1976, the woman said that her refusal caused her boyfriend to feel angry and “embarrassed.” So far, the post has received more than 10,000 upvotes and over 2,400 comments from Redditors who said the woman was right to deny her boyfriend a house key, arguing that he cannot be trusted.

And according to experts, a person should only give their house key to a partner whom they trust “implicitly.”

In her post, the woman explained that her boyfriend requested that she make a copy of her key one night while they were out with friends. Apparently, he wanted a key so that he could “stop by alone or with friends” whenever she’s out.

“I told him that I don’t feel comfortable having anyone at my apartment unless I’m there and that he gets to have a copy of the key only if he lives there and that’s it,” the woman wrote.

But this upset her boyfriend, who sent her a “long wall of text” later that night.

“We had an argument and he insisted that I have no trust in him and that I embarrassed him in front of his friends by declining to let him have a copy of the key,” she claimed.

She tried calling him, but “one of his friends picked up and got involved saying my boyfriend is rightfully upset with me for not treating him as my partner and showing him the respect he deserves,” she said.

Some experts have said that a person’s decision to give their partner a key to their home is a “big deal,” said Elite Daily. According to dating expert Susan Winter, this is because “a key to your home or apartment allows them full access to your life. They are now in the center of your inner circle.””

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