So, six years ago, she started dating studs in their 20s and 30s — and she hasn’t looked back.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers. “You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.”
In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. The happy couple got engaged in March.
“Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues. New French President Emmanuel Macron, 39, has a wife, Brigitte, who is 24 years his senior, while supermodel Heidi Klum, 43, has been dating art dealer Vito Schnabel, 30, for more than three years. Actress Gabrielle Union, 44, and her husband, Chicago Bulls player Dwyane Wade, 35, are often lauded as a power couple.
Experts say the dynamic makes sense.
“Older successful men are used to being in control of a woman, and that doesn’t sit well with modern women,” says Susan Winter, co-author of the book “Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.” “Younger men have grown up with working women and have worked for female bosses, so they’re more likely to treat women equally.”
Some in these relationships agree.
“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic. “Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.”
They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate. They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.
Wipp was immediately attracted to Sutherland’s youthful energy, which was a far cry from the cynical guys closer to her age.
“Older men tend to become cruel over time, and